Will You Be Expecting a “Push Present?”

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As I write this, it’s nearly December and I’m at my mom’s house in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. The Christmas season is in full swing here. While the major Bangkok shopping malls had already put up their Christmas decorations before I left, when you’re living in a place like Bangkok you’re not bombarded by the constant TV commercials and shopping offers like you are in the West.

So with Christmas shopping everywhere I look . . . I started thinking about ‘push presents.’

Expecting Expats - Push Present

Just the other night, my mom was admiring my lovely diamond stud earrings and asked where I got them. I replied that they were a ‘push present’ from my husband last Christmas. She looked at me as if to say, “A what?”

Push presents are a relatively new phenomenon. According to Wikipedia, a “push present” is:

“. . . any type of present loved ones give to a woman who has recently given birth to a child.”

- Wikipedia.org

Read the entire article

Typically it’s the baby’s father who offers such a gift and traditionally the gift is a piece of jewelry. But I’ve known friends to receive anything from designer handbags to second honeymoons.

A simple internet search will throw up many (many) articles, opinions and shopping sites regarding the practice.

There seems to be two clear opinions on this whole phenomenon. On the one hand, many people will argue that the baby is present enough and that asking for or expecting an expensive gift is at best tacky and at worst greedy. On the other hand, others will say that it’s a welcomed gesture from their spouse to acknowledge the physical and emotional sacrifices made during those 9 and a half months.

I realise that what I’m about to say may, no doubt, sound old-fashioned; but, as a married woman, I take pride in wearing jewelry that was given to me by my husband. And I can count on my one hand all the times that I’ve ever asked for jewelry from him: our engagement, our wedding day, and our first child’s birth.

After our first son’s birth, I really wanted a ‘family ring’ (sometimes known as a ‘birthstone ring’ or a ‘mother’s ring’). And so, a few weeks before my birthday (a couple of months after our son’s birth) we went to a jeweller and together designed a ring with all our birthstones.

Mother's Ring

I have to say here and now that I didn’t ask for a push present after my last baby but I had been hinting (strongly) for years for a pair of diamond earrings. Moreover, we had a scheduled c-section with my second son and so we knew that we were bringing him home on Christmas morning. So this particular Christmas present was particularly awesome. And I will be the first to say that the absolute best ‘birth’ present ever is a healthy baby. But diamonds set in white gold are never wrong either.

Diamond Earrings

I’d love to know if you are asking for or expecting a push present after birth. Please share your comments below.

Image courtesy of Flickr, JD Hancock

My name is Jodie. I'm a 38 year old Canadian working and living in Bangkok, Thailand. My husband and I are both international teachers - though I'm taking this year off to be a full-time mom.

When we're not busy with other people's kids, we try our hand at raising our own very curious nearly four year old son and his 9 and half month old brother. When it comes to parenting, like most of us, I’m making a lot of it up as I go along .

3 Comments

  1. Coll  /  December 12, 2012, 8:22 pm Reply

    HI Jodie – I love the idea. I gave birth to my first child last February and my husband bought me a new road bike. Not your conventional push present but I do love my bike and it gave me an incentive to get back into shape after pregnancy.

  2. Soleil  /  December 20, 2012, 10:05 pm Reply

    Although I like Coll’s gift, I think a road bike is great as a birthday or ‘coming home’ gift… or even ‘just because.’ That’s why I was soooo excited when my husband gave me a STUNNING Juno Lucina diamond pendant in the hospital (Juno Lucina was the Roman goddess who protected mother and child in and after childbirth) so that my push present was perfectly symbolic to the occasion was spot on for my hubby. It will never rust or break, and everytime I see it I’m reminded of all those moments in the hospital and it was worth every penny.

  3. Jodie  /  December 25, 2012, 8:55 pm Reply

    In this case, I think that ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. Glad to hear that you both received something that you adore and will cherish!

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