How to tell the world you’re expecting

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When my husband and I found out that I had another so-called bun in my oven, we waited a long time before telling everyone. After my period was weeks overdue and I was beginning to have that familiar queasy feeling in my stomach, I went through my usual ritual: I hopped in a taxi straight to Emporium and bought four pregnancy tests from different brands.

“They’re very accurate,” the pharmacist assured me. “You really only need one.”

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Shush. This wasn’t about logic. This was about needing to be absolutely, positively, 100 percent sure. After an afternoon downing enough water to make it through the lot (no mean feat, as I’m sure some of you are aware), I emerged glowing and certain… and yet I still didn’t spread the word.

As delighted as I was with the news, I worried that somehow announcing it too soon would jinx everything. And besides, there were plenty of factors to consider. How would my boss take the news? What would my other kids think? And how, in this social media-crazed world, could I make my announcement more inventive than the deluge of baby news clogging up my Facebook feed all day long?

How to tell your boss and colleagues

Bringing this information back to the workplace is always tricky, especially since certain offices are likely to be more supportive of the information than others. Thailand offers less maternity leave than many other countries, but the notice that an employee will need to take a significant chunk of time off can still come as a shock.

The most important thing here is to make sure that your boss hears the information directly from you rather than from one of your nosy coworkers. Do not make the mistake of spreading the information around the water cooler before you talk to the people in charge. Office gossip is lethal and the last thing you want is the story circulating without your knowledge.

Be professional about the whole matter. Pick your time carefully and ask to speak with your boss in private. Explain that you will help organize everything for your absence to the best of your ability and that this does not take away from your capacity as a working professional. Approach the situation with honesty, reason and, depending on the individual, perhaps a touch of humor.

How to tell your children

Breaking the news to existing kids can be a delicate issue and depends greatly on their age. Young children may not understand exactly what’s going on or may be afraid that their place in the family dynamic will change. The two most common questions to hear are “But I’m the baby” or the dreaded “Wait, mommy, where do babies come from?”

With little ones, explain that they’re going to get a new friend to play with and that a new addition to the family won’t make them any less special. With older children, emphasize the role they can play in bringing up the new child. By helping them feel important and responsible, they’re more likely to be excited about your new arrival.

How to tell everyone else

This one’s all up to you. The ubiquitous social media blast is pragmatic, but not overly personal. When possible, tell the people who matter most face-to-face. How you tell everyone else depends on how creative you’re feeling. If you really want to go all out, you could even do what this couple did (

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